爱华网”Did you ever stop to think, and forget to start again?”
“Well,” said Pooh, “what I like best — ” and then he had to stop and think. Because although eating honey was a very good thing to do, there was a moment just before you began to eat it which was better than when you were, but he didn’t know what it was called.”
Winnie the Pooh is a kind bear. He cares greatly about his friends.
And he has always seemed like a pretty happy bear to me.
He’s also a favorite of mine so today I’d like to simply share 5 of my favorite happiness tips from that honey loving bear.
“你有没有停下来思考却又忘了重新思考的经历?”
“噢，”维尼说，“什么是我的最爱呢——”然后他停下来开始思考。尽管吃蜂蜜是件非常棒的事儿，但是在你准备开始吃之前的那个时刻感觉比吃的时候更美妙，但它不知道该怎么称呼这个时刻。
小熊维尼是一个善良的熊。他非常关心他的朋友。
同时对我来说，他看起来总是那么的快乐。
他也是我最喜欢的人，所以今天我简单分享一下亲爱小熊的五点幸福小贴士。
1. Don’t get bogged down in details.
“You can’t help respecting anybody who can spell TUESDAY, even if he doesn’t spell it right; but spelling isn’t everything. There are days when spelling Tuesday simply doesn’t count.”
Getting bogged down in details, focusing on the small problems can have advantages. But it can also make you miss the big picture. What’s really important in your life.
Don’t make the classic mistakes of spending too much time nitpicking or making mountains out of molehills. Relax instead. Focus on the positive things you have and want in your life.
Keep your attention on that. Work towards that. The days may seem long but the years are often pretty short. So live them instead constantly inspecting, criticizing or overthinking them.
1.不要纠结于细节
你不得不佩服那些能够拼写TUESDAY这个单词的人，即使他根本没有拼对。但是拼写并非一切，有时候它完全没有价值。
纠结于细节，关注小问题很有好处。但也有可能会使你错失更重要的东西，你生命中真正重要的东西。
不要对这些常见的拼写错误大惊小怪、小题大做以至于浪费时间。放轻松。关注你当下和希冀的生活中积极的东西。
在此方面集中注意力，并努力去做。日子看起来很长，但年岁却十分短暂。所以好好生活，而不是不断地在审视、批评或者想太多中度过一生。
2. Be proactive. Take the lead.
“You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.”
It’s easy to get locked into a reactive mindset. You just follow along with whatever is happening. You do what the people around you do. You react to whatever is going on.
And so you get lost in your circumstances. This way of thinking doesn’t feel too good. You tend to feel powerless and like you are just drifting along in life.
Another way of going about things to be proactive. To be the one who takes action first and to take the lead. It’s not always easy though. You have to get out of your comfort zone and it can feel scary.
So to not get lost in procrastination take it one small step at time. Just be proactive instead of reactive about one little thing in your life today. Start with that action and then build your proactiveness muscle step by small step.
2.积极主动做榜样
“你不能躲在林中的角落里等着别人来找你。有时你必须自己去找他们。”
人很容易陷入到被动的心态中，随波逐流、人云亦云。面对任何事都是这样的反应。
所以你对自身情况感到迷失。这种思维方式并不好。你会感到无助，好像你只是在随波逐流的生活。
从积极的角度对待这件事。成为行动的第一执行者和带头人。这并不容易。你将不得不走出自己舒服的领域，这会让你感到恐慌。
所以为了避免陷入拖延时间的困境，每次采取一小步。只有积极主动而不是被动对待今天生活中的一件小事。开始行动起来，然后一步一小步的建立你的积极力量。
3. Keep conversations simple and positive.
“It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn’t use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like “What about lunch?””
What do people want in a conversations and relationships?
Long-winded negative babbling?
Or positive, focused talks where it is interesting to listen, communicate and exchange ideas?
Although the answer probably varies but I’d rather spend most of my time with doing the latter.
Three tips that help me to keep the conversation positive and focused are:
Live a positive life. If you focus on the positive in your daily life then it’s usually no problem to keep focusing on it and talking about it in conversations. More on that in the last tip in this article.
Be aware and alert. If you know that you have a problem with excessive ramblings then simply being aware of this can help you to stop yourself more and more often before you go off into babbling.
Use words that helps you to get through. No need to try to impress people with big and complicated words when it’s not needed. Focus on getting through to others and communicating by using simple words that anyone can understand.
3.保持简洁积极向上的对话
和不用冗长又拗口的词的人交谈更有趣，但又不是十分简短的话，像“午餐吃什么?”
人们期待一个什么样的对话和关系?
冗长的消极的胡言乱语?
亦或是洋溢着聆听、交流、交换意见的积极地、集中地交谈?
尽管答案可能不同，但我宁愿花费我的大部分时间在后者。
三个提示，帮助我保持谈话的积极和集中：
保持阳光的生活。如果你的日常生活就充满向上，那么保持积极和谈话内容乐观就不是问题。更多精彩，尽在本文最后一个提示。
时刻保持警觉。如果你知道你有过分胡扯的问题，然后简单的觉察到这一点能帮助你，经常在你开始陷入胡言乱语之前，阻止自己再继续下去。
使用可以帮助你表达清晰的话。没有必要试图通过不需要的大而复杂的词给人留下印象。重点是能使他人理解，使用简单易懂的词与人沟通。
4. Do nothing once in a while.
“Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.”
Although it feels good to work towards your dreams and doing the things you love I find that things tend to go better and I feel better if there is a balance.
If I take some time each week to do pretty much nothing. If I just spend time with myself on a walk in the woods or by the ocean for example.
By doing so I unload my mind. I relax fully and so life becomes less heavy and burdensome and I tend to have less stress and worries during the rest of my week.
4. 偶尔无为
“不要低估了无所事事的价值，就这么走走，倾听那些你没听过的声音，不去打扰。”
尽管朝着自己的梦想努力感觉很美好，做自己喜欢的事情感觉也很美好，但我觉得如果能两者之间找到平衡肯定会更好。
如果我每星期花些时间什么也不做。如果我只是花时间自己在森林里走走或是，例如去海边走走。
这么做我一定能卸下思想中的包袱。我能充分的放松自己，生活的压力和累赘越来越少。在一周余下的时间里我会减少压力和忧虑。
5. Appreciate the little things.
“Nobody can be uncheered with a balloon.”
Daily happiness is to a large part about appreciating the small things.
If you just allow yourself to be happy when accomplishing a big goal or when you have some great luck then you are making life harder than it needs to be.
Instead, focus on appreciating things that you may take for granted.
Take 2 minutes and find things in your life you can appreciate right now. If you want some ideas, here are a few of the simple things that I like to appreciate:
My food.
The weather.
My health.
Friends and family.
This website and the opportunity to write about what I want.
You, the reader.
Myself and the fine things about me.
The funny thing is that if you just start appreciating something you can very quickly start jumping around with your attention and appreciate just about anything around you.
You may start with the food you are eating right now. Then move your attention to the phone and appreciate that you can contact anyone – and be contacted by anyone – you’d like.
You might then move your attention outside, through the window and see the wonderful sunshine, then kids having fun with a football and then the tree by the road turning into wonderful autumn colors. And so on.
It might not sound like much. But this simple 2 minute exercise can help you to uncover a lot of the happiness that is already in your daily life.
5. 欣赏微不足道的小事
“没有人不喜欢气球。”
最多的日常欢喜来自于对小事的欣赏。
如果你只允许自己在完成一个巨大目标或走大运的时候才欣喜，那么你的人生将过得不必要的艰难。
相反，重点是要欣赏你习以为常的东西。
花2分钟找寻你生命中你可以马上欣赏到的东西。如果你想要一些建议，这里有一些我欣赏的简单的东西：
美食
天气
健康
家人和朋友
这个网站和表达我自己的机会
你，这么一个读者
我自己和关于我美好的事情
有趣的是，如果你刚开始欣赏某物，你能很快开始跳脱你思维和欣赏你周围的任何事物。
你也许正在吃饭，你会转移你的注意力到手机上，欣赏你可以接触到的每一个人——无论是谁只要你愿意就能联系上。
你可能会将注意力转移到外面，透过窗户看到美好的阳光，孩子们开心的在踢球，然后道路旁的树变成美好的金黄色，等等。
也许听起来没什么大不了，但简单的两分钟练习就能帮助你发现日常生活的幸福美妙。
