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嫉妒与羡慕（from envy to admiration）
jealousy, one of the seven sins in christianity, is unquestionably a kind of human nature equally possessed by all mankind despite the variety in races, environments and civilizations. while admiration, a commonly prevailing sentiment as well, should do no harm to the owner as compared with envy. www•
in the biblical world, the very first murder was aroused by envy and in greek mythology we could fortunately have this privilege to appreciate the colorful but sinful paradise of jealousy. it seems that envy is inevitable and unavoidable and every one of us should have tasted the flavor of jealousy during the long and painful way towards adulthood. according to scientific study, the tender budding shoots of jealousy sprouted in the heart of a child when we have to compete with our brothers or sisters but fail to be outstanding in that peculiar period of the formation of one’s body and soul. and what’s more, however, we gradually learn in that period how to correctly deal with the budding jealousy and the means to restrain it whenever this little devil should want to assert itself. and nowadays, as the one child policy has became the horse sense, most of us, especially those who were born in the 1980s have no immediate brothers or sisters and we are much more likely self-centered in our way of behavior and lack of cooperative inclination in general. that is to say, as a post-1980 generation member, we are inclined to be jealous.
so how to efficiently remedy this inimical natural flaw endowed by the omnipotence since we humans always try so hard to perfect ourselves? in my opinion, the only way to achieve this seemingly impossible goal is to learn to admire, try to appreciate others’ virtues and advantages we do not own but for a long time have coveted, especially that of our peers. the distinctions between envy and admiration are obvious enough but there is one respect still worthy of mention, that jealousy would not be aroused between two persons who are by no means related in any sense. for instance, we may be envious when one of the peers has got an award but we definitely won’t be jealous if michael jordan has been conferred on the mvp. and the degree of envy often increases if the peer who has outdone us had used some treachery tricks or shamefully taken some unfair advantages. and this type of envy often inevitably results in overflowing but hidden hatred. the decided safety of the middle station of life, as advocated by confucianism, is one of the evidences that reflect man’s fear toward the grudge caused by jealousy.
but envy is not as totally devilish as it seems to be. slight jealousy can stimulate our desire to achieve what we want or what we envy. according to freudian theories, it is the emotion of jealousy which finally stirs the poor people in misery to pursue fairness and justice. but correspondingly it is a morbid and destructive emotion that sometimes bothers and frustrates us.
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