爱华网系列专题：《点亮生活的智慧：人生之钥》
The defence claimed all encounters had been consensual. His only crime was that of entering people’s homes. The man himself said it was never his intention to hurt anyone. He just wished to introduce these lonesome women to the nature of true love. The only way to open up their hearts of steel was by catching them off guard. One day they’d thank him for easing off their armour of cold self-sufficiency. The victim impact reports were decisive. His actions obviously left them with a trauma as bad as the most vicious, violent attacks. He was given a long prison sentence. And a whole female popul-ation breathed a sigh of relief.
Women said to marry well often marry badly. I pity any bride who receives congratulations on having captured an eligible man. For this implies that she has somehow got more than she deserves; that her groom had been expected to attract something better. Whether it is looks, age, wealth or education, background, status or any other mundane criteria, by which the world measures human value, the message comes across clearly: she is lucky; he is not. It doesn’t augur well for the woman’s future. She’ll be conde-mned to a life-long struggle trying to prove them all wrong: showing her husband’s family and friends that he didn’t make a mistake in choosing her. The battle is hard to win, for no amount of hard work, self-sacrifice or moral rectitude will ever change the facts of her beginnings; gain her the esteem initially denied her. She will always have difficulty asserting herself, even within her own family. Children detect such weakness and are quick to take advantage, which will further undermine her. Think of any spoilt, indulged or unruly children you know. Aren’t they usually the product of a mother unsure of her role in the home? It’s interesting how this trap, in which so many women are caught, does not seem to swallow up men. All one can say is: No woman should be allowed to marry, before she knows her own full worth.
